Dating Expert: The Question to Ask That Will Save You Years of Wasted Time | Sara Al Madani

You can't attract what you're not. If you want someone kind, successful and hardworking, ask yourself one thing first: are you? In this episode, Sara and Jay Shetty talk about why good people keep attracting the wrong person. Sara has been in five relationships and two marriages. She kept finding the same man in a different body. Then she stopped pointing the finger and asked what her part was. She shares why nerves on a date can be a red flag, not butterflies. She explains why the calm, boring guy might be the one. And she tells the story of a friend who had three amazing months with a man who then vanished. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Chapters 0:00 Are you what you're trying to manifest? 1:30 Wanting someone vs. needing someone 3:10 Why mystery stopped being attractive 5:36 Why chemistry can mislead you 7:22 What inner work really is 10:00 Five relationships, one pattern 13:43 Why love is a decision, not a feeling 16:03 The honest first-date talk 18:01 Why she stayed too long 21:55 A message to anyone in a toxic relationship 25:58 Rock bottom has a basement 27:32 The house with no doors 28:30 The three months that ended in a ghost 31:37 Why we fall for potential 36:52 What self-love really means 42:41 Forgiveness without an open invitation 45:23 Training your brain with Phoenix mode 46:46 The Final Five Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️ Netflix - https://jayshettypodcast.com/Netflix Spotify - https://jayshettypodcast.com/Spotify Full Episode With Sara Al Madani: https://youtu.be/yWsf35yrsfA Episode Resources: Website | https://saraalmadani.com/ Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/iamsaraalmadani/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/saraalmadani/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@saraalmadani X | https://x.com/sara_almadani