I’M ADDICTED TO SELF-HELP BUT NOTHING CHANGES. the psychology behind why

Thanks to Consensus for sponsoring this video! Want to try Consensus for yourself? Get one week of Consensus Pro completely free with no credit card required using my link: https://get.consensus.app/olga In this video, I break down the biggest lies the self-help industry told us, the psychological reasons we get addicted to this content even when we’ve heard it all before, and how to finally break free. SOCIALS: 🤍Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/olgaloiek 🤍Personal e-mail: loiekolga@gmail.com 🤍Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/olgaloiek 🤍Support this channel: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/OlgaLoiek 0:00 — you’re not broken, the advice is 02:33 — lie #1: “visualize your goals and they’ll come true” 03:19 — what actually works (mental contrasting) 05:20 — lie #2: “it takes 21 days to build a habit” 06:49 — lie #3: “repeat positive affirmations” 09:40 — why we stay addicted to self-help 09:53 — the illusion of progress 10:28 — the illusory truth effect 11:19 — Goodhart’s law 13:30 — how to actually break free References: Oettingen, G., & Mayer, D. — The Motivating Function of Thinking About the Future: Expectations Versus Fantasies Kappes, H. B., & Oettingen, G. — Positive Fantasies About Idealized Futures Sap Energy Oettingen, G., Pak, H., & Schnetter, K. — Self-Regulation of Goal Setting (mental contrasting) Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W., & Wardle, J. — How Are Habits Formed: Modelling Habit Formation in the Real World Wood, J. V., Perunovic, W. Q. E., & Lee, J. W. — Positive Self-Statements: Power for Some, Peril for Others Hasher, L., Goldstein, D., & Toppino, T. — Frequency and the Conference of Referential Validity Fazio, L. K., et al. — Knowledge Does Not Protect Against Illusory Truth Strathern, M. — ‘Improving Ratings’: Audit in the British University System