The Hidden Fear Behind Your Need for Control | Lysa TerKeurst

On Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, Lysa TerKeurst shares how fear, overthinking, and a desire for good outcomes can quietly turn responsibility into control - and how surrendering what you cannot manage can bring greater peace, wisdom, and trust in God. In this video, you'll learn: 🔹 How to recognize the paper-thin line between being responsible and being controlling 🔹 Why fear, memory, and perception can drive the urge to manage people and outcomes 🔹 How catastrophizing and overthinking increase mental exhaustion 🔹 Why helping, rescuing, and compassion can become unhealthy when they cross into control 🔹 How to do your part, release the outcome, and trust God with what is outside your control If you feel exhausted from trying to hold everything together, this conversation offers a practical and faith-filled way to loosen your grip without disengaging from the people you love. Get Lysa TerKeurst's book, "Making Peace with What I Can't Control" here: https://sf.fotf.com/kjr6b5 CHAPTERS 0:00 When Responsibility Turns Into Control 4:02 Trying to Save Someone Can Backfire 9:14 Control Is Fear Disguised as Strength 12:33 The Habits That Hide Our Need for Control 17:00 When We Try to Force the Outcome 20:59 When Helping Becomes Rescuing 25:15 Changing the Story You Tell Yourself 31:14 What Surrender Feels Like in Real Life 37:25 Your Choice: Where Responsibility Ends 43:05 The Bible Lysa Gave Away #LysaTerKeurst #TrustGod #Overthinking