Forgive and Remember: Susan Raphael on Forgiveness

Susan Raphael is back on the show with a story from the When We Forgive anthology, about loving someone with an addiction while she was in recovery herself. It is a story about a difficult choice: stay in a chaotic relationship, or let go and move forward, trusting that peace would follow. In this conversation, Susan talks about why we should forgive and remember instead of forgive and forget. She talks about resentment as poison, about compassion that holds firm boundaries, and about forgiveness arriving in its own time, in dreams, in quiet moments, in the years after she let go. She talks about two things being true at the same time: she had not forgiven, and she could still show up. Her takeaway is simple and practical: you only have to be willing to be ready. Forgiveness is a process, not a finish line, and letting go without losing your compassion is the most audacious move of all. 🎙️ Press play and join the conversation. Live Life Audaciously. IN THIS EPISODE - Forgive and remember. Susan explains why forgetting is not on the table, and why remembering is wisdom, not a grudge. - Resentment is poison. In recovery, holding on to it is a state of mind that can lead back toward relapse. - Compassion with boundaries. You can forgive someone and still keep your distance, and the distance can be the compassionate choice. - Two things can be true. You do not have to have forgiven someone to show up for your family. CONNECT WITH THE GUEST What's Wrong with My Teen? (book and family resources) https://www.whatswrongwithmyteen.com Sustainable Recovery Counselling Services https://www.sustainablerecovery.ca When We Forgive, a Life to Paper anthology. All proceeds support the Life to Paper Foundation: https://buy.bookfunnel.com/isij6z3lv0 BLOG ARTICLE Read the Blog Article: [https://www.bestaudaciouslife.com/audacious-insights/forgive-without-letting-someone-back-in] LISTEN ANYWHERE. LIVE AUDACIOUSLY. Choose your favorite platform to enjoy The Audacious Living Podcast. https://bestaudaciouslife.com #AudaciousLiving #SusanRaphael #WhenWeForgive #Forgiveness #LiveLifeAudaciously