Whose Voice Is That? | Scarlett Faiiletasi Ekeroma | Dear Suga: Pacific Islander Women's Podcast

Whose voice is that? Licensed marriage and family therapist Scarlett Faiiletasi Ekeroma joins Nan Heui Kim for an honest conversation on burnout, boundaries, Pacific Islander identity and getting past the stigma around therapy. "Filling your cup is your duty. The overflow is for everybody." Scarlett Faiiletasi Ekeroma Scarlett is the founder of Elevate Healing and the baker behind Tasi's Sweet Delights. IN THIS EPISODE • Why confrontation isn't bad, and how to do it well • Quieting inherited voices: "Whose voice is that?" • Feeling "not Samoan enough" and defining your own journey • What to ask in a therapy consultation, plus EAP and insurance tips • Supporting Pacific Islander men and building an emotional safe circle • Parenting, self-care that isn't selfish, and simple ways to decompress CHAPTERS 0:00 Preview 0:26 Welcome & meet Scarlett 1:13 The introvert extrovert 1:58 Baking, Samoan roots & Tasi's Sweet Delights 4:08 Avoiding burnout & setting boundaries 7:49 Samoan identity & "enough" 13:19 Stating what you need 16:36 Healthy confrontation 19:07 Your inner child in adult spaces 20:42 Deciding to try therapy 23:19 Questions to ask a therapist 27:00 Pacific Islander Clinician Conference 33:22 EAP, insurance & costs 34:40 Men, emotions & stigma 36:23 Anger is not the issue, the behavior is 38:31 Trust and care in behavior form 40:35 Parenting & emotional expression 44:43 Self-care isn't selfish 51:12 Decompressing: clouds, kites & the ocean 55:36 Moving to Charlotte 1:02:37 Purpose & taking a chance on yourself 1:05:44 Work with Scarlett CONNECT WITH SCARLETT Elevate Healing: https://www.elevatehealingllc.com Instagram and YouTube: @elevatehealingllc Tasi's Sweet Delights: https://www.tsdelights.com Instagram and TikTok: @tasisweetdelights SUPPORT DEAR SUGA Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@dear.suga_media?sub_confirmation=1 Support and join the list: https://dearsuga.com/support-dear-suga/ MORE CONVERSATIONS ON DEAR SUGA Aigalesala Afalava, Therapy That Honors You: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbxfiBhRGoc Beverly Philipp, Finding Your Inner Game: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_b4KBwOIZY If you or someone you know is struggling, in the US you can call or text 988 anytime. This conversation is for education and connection. It is not a substitute for professional care. Dear Suga is a Pacific Islander women's podcast. Stories from Polynesia, Melanesia and Micronesia, for every woman. #DearSuga #PacificIslander #MentalHealth #Therapy #Samoan #PacificIslanderWomen #Pasifika