Christianity kept me in constant FIGHT or FLIGHT - Jen Vernoy

In this interview with Jen Vernoy, we explore religious trauma, leaving Christianity, and the exhausting reality of living in constant fight or flight. What happens when the faith that promises peace leaves you afraid of God, your own body, and your right to say no? From a strict Independent Baptist childhood to youth ministry and church planting, we follow Jen’s journey through devotion, doubt, and deconversion. We discuss how fear of hell, spiritual warfare, purity culture, and childhood punishment affected her confidence, relationships, and sense of safety. We also talk candidly about setting boundaries with Christian parents, deconstructing alongside a spouse, and breaking the cycle of fear in our children’s lives. Jen shares the relief of reclaiming her voice—and the ongoing work of untangling what she was taught to accept as love. If you’ve stopped believing but still feel guilty for questioning, setting boundaries, or being yourself, we hope this conversation helps you recognize your own experiences and feel less alone. Subscribe to Harmonic Atheist for more honest conversations about leaving Christianity, reclaiming your identity, and healing from religious trauma. _________________________________________ Connect with Jen! https://www.instagram.com/jen_vernoy/ https://www.facebook.com/jennefervernoy _________________________________________ Don't deconstruct alone! https://www.skool.com/signup?ref=20ea3b8f84eb4ef192a3e1810603b643 _________________________________________ Interested in working with me directly for peer-to-peer (non clinical) support for your deconstruction? Reach out to me on FB @harmonictim or by email: harmonicatheist@yahoo.com --Tim _________________________________________ Your support for my channel, Harmonic Atheist, is very needed and appreciated! One-time donations: PayPal: paypal.me/harmonictim Venmo: @harmonicatheist CashApp: $HarmonicAtheist Zelle email: harmonicatheist@​yahoo.​com GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-tim-stay-full-time-on-harmonic-atheist Monthly donations: https://www.patreon.com/harmonicatheist You can also "Join" the Harmonic Atheist YT channel to get access to perks, which will be coming soon: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrPKXNg9PAL6bROvsaUFvAA/join Thanks! --Tim _________________________________________ Want to create live streams like this? Check out StreamYard: https://streamyard.com/pal/d/4917726076600320 (FYI - using that link does help support me ) _________________________________________ If you are facing emotional distress, please call the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988. _________________________________________ Ending music by Kazuya / Eyal Raz / Backward Days - "Friends" https://artlist.io/royalty-free-music/song/friends/2825 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qbqNO6DdAQ _________________________________________