EMBRACE Your Imperfect SELF and Claim Your Pain! - Dr. Shefali Live Motivation

Dr. Shefali 💡Conscious Parent 🧠Clinical Psychologist 📖 Bestselling Author 🎤 Public Speaker ⬇️ Links to all my offerings linktr.ee/drshefali Follow her at: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/ First 5 Minutes of Automated Transcript: 00:00 if you kind of overlay them together 00:03 um oh i see dr shivali has joined and 00:08 uh 00:08 okay 00:10 oh my god 00:11 so exciting 00:15 oh hi debbie 00:18 i know 00:21 hello hello 00:23 hello hello oh my god i'm so excited 00:30 have your book here 00:31 i'm gonna cry 00:33 oh 00:35 i'm seriously gonna cry 00:38 oh my god you shouldn't starting live 00:40 like this 00:42 um 00:43 your book 00:46 a radical awakening um 00:49 wow 00:50 i'm so sorry 00:51 i actually i emailed you when i heard 00:54 alicia keys 00:56 start to read this book so she started 00:58 reading your poem she started reading 01:00 your poem and i was like damn 01:04 like 01:05 who is this person and i immediately 01:07 ordered your book 01:09 not even finishing listening to alicia 01:11 keys talk about this poem and i was 01:14 losing my mind because i'm going is she 01:16 talking about me like who is she why is 01:19 she writing this poem about me i don't 01:21 know who she is she's talking about no 01:24 more she's talking about you know like 01:26 you know just unabashedly boldly 01:29 occupying your ultimate sovereignty and 01:31 i was just like 01:32 she knows me so i'm going to send her a 01:34 message and i'm going to tell her that 01:38 you're awesome 01:40 and you are too 01:41 and i just began reading your book and 01:44 your email talked about how 01:47 your own journey was mirrored in the 01:49 book and i was like i need to talk to 01:51 this woman as well so we are now kindred 01:54 spirits and together on this journey so 01:56 i'm so happy too 01:58 oh 01:59 dr 02:00 like 02:00 i went through the book in your book 02:03 and this is my copy of your book and i 02:06 hope you don't mind that it is it's full 02:09 of sorry it's full of 02:11 writing and 02:13 notes and just all kinds of 02:16 like i'd write paragraphs 02:19 in the pages 02:21 and i kept saying oh and look at it it's 02:23 tearing 02:24 [Music] 02:28 you're so sweet 02:29 so so so we were going to do this live 02:32 on my page so i wanted to be a mutual 02:35 dialogue so tell us because my audience 02:37 is here too 02:38 about your journey you've been in 02:40 parliament 02:42 you are this trailblazer leader for 02:45 women so tell us about 02:47 how your journey has felt for you being 02:50 a woman in a man's world and how you've 02:53 had to overcome your own inner 02:55 unworthiness 02:57 so 02:59 it's interesting because 03:01 so i need to stop crying um i i never 03:04 actually felt like a woman 03:08 or a black person or a black woman 03:12 until getting into politics 03:15 and it hit me in this like really 03:17 profound way 03:20 how 03:21 much of a man's world it is and how 03:24 exclusionary 03:26 the the space is and i called politics 03:29 one of the reasons your book resonated 03:30 with me so much is i called politics the 03:33 most painfully beautiful experience i've 03:36 ever had 03:37 because i feel like i went through so 03:39 much pain in that experience but also 03:42 came out of the other side 03:44 realizing 03:46 i needed to go through that 03:48 in order to have 03:51 a radical awakening 03:54 so tell us tell us what it was about 03:57 that brutal world 03:59 that shook you up so much 04:02 i think it was more about the fact that 04:05 i kept making myself smaller and smaller 04:08 so you know you straighten your hair 04:11 you wear black you don't really you 04:14 don't put on too much lipstick because i 04:17 mean too much lipstick is too much not 04:20 too much makeup is too much too much all 04:23 this stuff was too much and you know 04:25 what 04:26 two years into the experience i actually 04:29 kept come came home and said to my 04:31 family this job is killing me 04:34 like it's curious something about it was 04:36 hurting me on the inside 04:39 and i just thought in 2017 i thought i