THIS Is How to GET Closer to Your AUTHENTIC Self! - Dr. Shefali Live Motivation

Dr. Shefali 💡Conscious Parent 🧠Clinical Psychologist 📖 Bestselling Author 🎤 Public Speaker ⬇️ Links to all my offerings linktr.ee/drshefali Follow her at: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/ First 5 Minutes of Automated Transcript: 00:01 hi everyone 00:03 welcome to book club number 32. 00:08 hello hello come on in 00:12 come on in guys just checking that i 00:14 have the right book club number 00:17 so we are talking about 00:20 the book a radical awakening i don't 00:23 have the book with me i left it at a 00:24 friend's house 00:25 but and i'm too lazy to go upstairs and 00:27 get a new one so here it is 00:30 we're talking about a radical awakening 00:32 come on in come on in 00:36 so my main 00:40 teachings 00:43 i i say this because there are 1000 main 00:46 things 00:46 okay but my main one for this moment 00:51 um is now this is this is the core of my 00:54 teachings yes if you 00:56 if you ever chose to take one of my 00:58 courses which are 50 01:00 off which you should take right now or 01:03 if you chose to become a conscious 01:05 parenting coach 01:06 at my institute you could apply for that 01:10 and you would see 01:11 that my main teachings are all about 01:15 deconstruction right deconstruction 01:18 that's what i call it 01:20 my first conference uh that i ever did 01:22 on my own was called deconstructing 01:24 parenthood 01:26 and then i decided to call it evolve 01:28 because that's the bigger umbrella 01:30 is how do we evolve so what does it mean 01:33 to evolve and what does it mean to 01:34 deconstruct 01:38 um so to evolve 01:42 means to get closer 01:45 and closer in touch with 01:48 your authentic self 01:51 what is the authentic self every 01:54 sentence requires ten 01:56 sentences to explain the authentic self 01:59 is in a nutshell the unconditioned self 02:05 what is the unconditioned self 02:08 i'm a pain in the butt i know the 02:11 unconditioned self 02:12 is the self that is not yet 02:17 contaminated by culture and other 02:20 people's [ __ ] 02:21 which is no self ever 02:24 so there is no self that is 02:25 unconditioned everyone's self 02:27 is conditioned to hear here here 02:31 but the goal of evolution is to unlayer 02:37 the crap to arrive at your 02:40 unconditioned self the more and more 02:43 and more unconditioned you are 02:47 the more liberated you are people 02:50 if you go back to my video um i have a 02:53 video posted on instagram i'm looking on 02:55 my other phone 02:57 it says you are not who you think you 02:59 are that's what i'm talking about 03:01 that is the unconditioned self the self 03:04 that you don't think you are 03:07 the self that is not contaminated 03:10 polluted 03:11 colored marred influenced 03:15 to purgatory by culture that self 03:18 that self that none of us know but that 03:20 is where we have to go 03:22 and when you get there you arrive at 03:26 liberation so how to arrive there 03:30 is called deconstruction oh that's what 03:34 i call deconstruction 03:35 how do you get to your unconditioned 03:38 authentic self 03:39 through a careful 03:42 brilliant process of deconstruction 03:46 now you'd be like i don't want to 03:48 deconstruct 03:49 i just want to live okay you think 03:52 you're just living 03:53 you're actually just 03:57 robotic and conditioned and regurgitated 04:00 most of us 04:01 are not living 04:05 unconditioned lives we're not living 04:08 our own life we are living somebody 04:10 else's version of our life 04:11 what they think we need to live their 04:13 opinion about our life but we don't even 04:15 know it 04:16 this is the sinister part of our ego 04:20 of this false persona that we have 04:22 created 04:24 that makes us believe we are living our 04:26 life but we are not we are robotic 04:27 puppets 04:29 uh the the strings are all around us but 04:31 we don't see it 04:33 we don't see it you and i 04:37 and she and they and them were all 04:40 puppeteered 04:42 and the more we 04:46 leave ourselves our authentic selves 04:49 behind the more we spin out of control 04:52 right now we've gotten married now we 04:55 have three children