THIS Is the Greatest ACT of SELF-LOVE! - Dr. Shefali Live Motivation

Dr. Shefali 💡Conscious Parent 🧠Clinical Psychologist 📖 Bestselling Author 🎤 Public Speaker ⬇️ Links to all my offerings linktr.ee/drshefali Follow her at: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/ First 5 Minutes of Automated Transcript: 00:02 hello everyone i'm trying to get this 00:04 wi-fi to work 00:05 so i don't know whether it's working 00:07 today 00:11 there you go hi everyone i'm here to 00:15 enjoy a discussion with you and 00:19 speak to you more about concepts from my 00:21 book a radical awakening which has been 00:23 out in the world now for 00:25 three weeks if you've started reading it 00:27 tell me 00:28 what is your aha moment what are your 00:30 insights what is impacting you 00:33 this book is now reaching the hearts and 00:35 minds of many 00:36 so i am holding a book 00:40 book club almost on a daily basis this 00:42 is book club number four let's talk 00:44 about 00:45 some things that come up as a consistent 00:48 theme 00:49 in this book that i want to share with 00:50 you so 00:52 drag lifestyle md can't put it down 00:56 how many of you have started reading the 00:57 book g 00:59 g russell just got it tanya pettis hi 01:03 salistara what hi nicole waiting for 01:07 your book to come 01:08 please be my therapist amazing book has 01:10 been life-changing 01:13 we are here book club number four i'm 01:15 going to share with you 01:16 some of the themes from this book a 01:19 radical awakening bravat 01:20 it is helping women and men transform 01:24 understand themselves more deeply and 01:27 truly 01:28 set themselves free so if you haven't 01:31 grabbed the book 01:32 grab it so one of the things i talk 01:34 about 01:35 in this book a lot and what i 01:38 see on a daily basis with my clients 01:42 is this pervasive sense 01:45 of lack what is lack right 01:49 so we know lack is something lesser than 01:52 lack is something scarce lack 01:56 is not good enough 01:59 now it seems so obvious that our 02:02 problems would come from lack 02:05 but what i really want to talk about 02:07 today is that 02:08 you may not even realize how quickly 02:12 you go you go into lack so jacian says 02:15 maybe i'll buy the audiobook 02:17 i hope you do it's only 15 hours 02:21 it's intense but it will keep you 02:23 company on your exercise 02:25 and your cooking and your walks and 02:28 before you go to bed 02:29 so whether you buy the audio or a hard 02:31 copy 02:32 make sure to grab a copy either way 02:36 so what is lack 02:40 lack according to me and what i see 02:44 in hundreds of people i work with 02:47 every year lack is the default 02:51 is the default gear that we 02:54 go into i promise you it is your default 02:58 gear 02:59 what does that mean anytime you are in a 03:02 state of 03:04 uh a trigger a triggered state anytime 03:08 you are 03:08 in a state of heightened emotion 03:12 when somebody has poked you 03:16 chances are for the most part 03:21 that you will shift your emotional gear 03:24 shift into gear called 03:28 lack gear number one lack gear number 03:31 two 03:32 more lack more stories gear number three 03:36 shame or anger gear number four 03:39 spiral pattern acting out 03:44 addiction we go through 03:47 a very predictable path in our minds 03:51 and i talk about it in my book a radical 03:53 awakening 03:54 in many different ways how we women in 03:57 particular 03:58 are conditioned to enter 04:02 lack and it isn't too late to change no